Love is not self-seeking

1 Corinthians 13:5   Love… does not insist on its own way.

Many marriages end simply because the two spouses could never quite become one unit.  If either or both are constantly looking out for self and never putting the good of the entire family first, things will ultimately fall apart.  This can be said of any relationship.

Jesus said that a house divided against itself cannot stand (Mark 3:25). There has to be unity in a home, each member of the family acting as a teammate, in order for any sort of happiness to be there.  Each person seeking to get only for themselves, at the expense of others, will lead only to strife.

Relationships are team efforts, with one set of goals, one set of values, and a high regard for unity and respect.  Two individuals trying to live for their own goals with no regard for each other’s is not a functioning relationship – and it’s not love.

Love is not self-seeking, it does not insist on its own way.  It always – ALWAYS – puts others first.  Sometimes you will have to put aside your own desires for the greater good of your marriage.  Sometimes keeping a friendship means not getting your way.  Sometimes selflessness won’t be reciprocated.  Sometimes it may seem that you’re doing it all for no reason.  But love always hopes, love always endures, and love never fails.  Hold on and keep loving.