Category Archives: Love

Love never fails

1 Corinthians 13:8 Love never ends.

There’s one thing in this world that will never end, can never be defeated by the forces of darkness and continues on into the next life. God’s love never ends, it never fails, and there’s nothing we can do to affect His love for us. The Lord is sovereign and He will chose whom to love.

It should be noted that nowhere in all of Paul’s descriptions of what love is and is not does he ever refer to it as an emotion.  Love is so far beyond just being something we feel, though we make it out to be nothing more.  We talk of “falling in love” and then “falling out of love”, but that just isn’t characteristic of love at all.  Love cannot be fallen into or fallen out of because it’s an action, not a whim.  Loving is a choice, and we must choose to love everyday.

God’s love for us is unconditional, not based on feelings or circumstances. He chooses to love us, just as we should choose to love those around us, regardless of whether or not they deserve it. Love never fails, it can never be defeated, and it will endure forever. When God chose to sacrifice His Son on the cross to take on the punishment we deserved for our sins, love won, once and for all.

Love always perseveres

1 Corinthians 13:7  [Love] endures all things

Relationships are never a walk in the park every single day. No matter how much you love someone and they love you, there will be moments of disappointment, struggle, discontentment, and resentment. The simple reason for that is that relationships consist of human beings and human beings are not perfect. We all hurt those we love and they hurt us, whether it’s intentional or unintentional.

The truth of the matter is that far too many people these days are bailing out instead of sticking around through the hard times. It’s easy to just say goodbye rather than putting in the time and effort it takes to reconcile with someone. What no one wants to hear about love is that it takes a lot of hard work. It takes perseverance, humility, and the willingness to press on.  Love is made up of imperfect people who continue to love despite their hurts and hardships.

No one was more betrayed and hurt by those He loved than Jesus. The very fact that He had to suffer the pain of the cross was due to the fact that those He created turned against Him and sinned.  God had to sacrifice His own Son because His creation failed to love Him as He so loved them.  But despite our rejection of God, He did make that sacrifice, paying the ultimate price to reconcile with us, His fallen creatures. Love won out because our Father was willing to do what had to be done to restore our relationship with Him.

Love always hopes

1 Corinthians 13:7 [Love] hopes all things

Love is not just concerned with accepting things the way they are.  Love always hopes for the best in everything.  For the marriage that’s gone wrong, love hopes for reconciliation.  For the lost soul, love hopes for redemption and regeneration.  Love can’t just leave things the way they are when they’re not what God wants them to be.

When you pray for others, do you pray with the hope that they’ll see the Father come through for them?  Do you pray with the hope that you’ve asked according to God’s will?  When someone’s heading down the wrong path, do you have hope for them that they can be redeemed? Do you find hope in the fact that everything is working toward the purposes of God?

When Jesus, who is Himself love, came to earth to bride the gap between us and God, He brought us hope.  In Him we can rest assured that all things are being held together and sustained by our Creator, who loves us and calls us according to His purposes.  Love doesn’t look at this world all around us and despair.  Love hopes all things.

 

Love always trusts

1 Corinthians 13:7 [Love] believes all things

All relationships are built on trust.  If you don’t trust someone, how can you possibly hope to interact with them on any level without constant fear that they’ll lie to you or betray you?  But love, to give this passage another interpretation, gives the benefit of the doubt.

We’ve all been through times in life when someone has done something to earn our distrust.  We can forgive, but we won’t soon forget, and it may take a while for them to regain our full trust.  There’s nothing wrong with this, but the forgiving part is very essential. And it’s never ok to distrust someone based on someone else’s actions. It’s not your wife’s fault that your ex-girlfriend hurt you.  It’s not your boss’s fault that your last employer fired you unjustly.  Give the benefit of the doubt.

There are those who don’t deserve our trust, but they still need our love.  We should do all we can to show them that they are indeed loved despite their inability to be believed.  There’s no formula for this, it’s going to be different in every case.  Praying for the Holy Spirit to work through us in the relationship is one step in the right direction.

Believe the best in those you love. Don’t easily jump to conclusions, assuming the worst.  Give the benefit of the doubt and show trust, until such a time as that trust is betrayed, and even then work toward repairing that element of the relationship. Follow the example of Jesus, who even though He knew the hearts of all men, gave all a chance.

 

 

Love rejoices with the truth

1 Corinthians 13:6  [Love] does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.

Are you like Jonah?  Do you find it hard to rejoice when others find reconciliation?  Is it hard to be happy for someone who’s chosen to turn from their wrongdoing and now walks in truth?  Sometimes it seems that certain people never get what they deserve for the sins they’ve committed.  But we should never be joyful over someone’s sin. Instead we should rejoice when they walk in God’s ways.

It should be our desire that everyone would follow after God and seek His truth in everything. Real truth can’t exist apart from God, who is truth.  Truth is found in Christ, so anyone who turns to Him should be welcomed into the family, never rejected because of their past.  Love desires what God desires. Love seeks what is good, right, and pure and cheers when truth wins over evil.

When a lost sheep has been found, give praise!  Applaud with the angels in heaven that another soul has been restored to God’s image and truth has won out over all of this world’s evils.  Be glad when love wins.

 

Love does not delight in evil

1 Corinthians 13:6  [Love] does not rejoice at wrongdoing

True love, let’s face it, is hard to live out. Never being rude, always being kind, this can be wearisome, but it’s still what love really is.  Love also never takes pleasure in unrighteousness or injustice.  Love never complains when someone benefits from truth and what is right, even when that person is an enemy. Because love rejoices with the truth, sometimes that means being happy for someone that you don’t think deserves for anything to go well in their life.

Put yourself in this scenario.  Think about a time that someone reaped a consequence of their own actions and you delighted in knowing that they got what was coming to them.  You can admit to doing it, all of us have at some point.  You, whether you knew it or not, were condoning the wrongdoing because you praised the results.  That’s not love.

Love, instead, would mourn that the person had made an unwise choice and saw things play out badly.  Love would seek to bring the person to righteousness through truth.  Then, when truth spoke into that person’s life, someone who loves them would be glad for them.  Jonah didn’t get this one right.  When he preached to the people of Ninevah, they repented and turned to God (Jonah 3:10-4:1).  If he loved them, Jonah would have praised the Lord that these people had been saved from destruction.  But instead he grumbled because he didn’t want the Ninevites to avoid God’s wrath.  He would have rather they fall because of all their past sins.  He didn’t know how to delight in truth.

Love always protects

1 Corinthians 13:7  Love bears all things

Different translations of this same verse often bring up images that aren’t necessarily related.  The NIV, for instance, says that love always protects. The ESV and many other translations, however, say that love bears all things.  While these may seem like different statements, they really can mean something similar. The gist of it is that people in loving relationships sometimes have to undergo wounds for the sake of each other.

If my sons or my wife were threatened in any way, you’d better believe that I would jump into whatever lions den I had to in order to protect them.  I wouldn’t do so foolishly, though.  Sacrificing my life for theirs might keep them alive, but what about the rest of their lives? It would make more sense to act in a calculated way that not only protects them, but also does them good in the long run.  This is where enduring things for their sake, bearing all things, is relevant.

Moving away from the analogy, the point is that loving relationships aren’t easy.  Sometimes you have to sacrifice for those you love.  Sometimes you have to endure hardship for them when the easier thing to do would be to run off on your own and not face the trials.  When we love someone, we don’t take that easy way out.  We stand by them and endure whatever we have to for their sake.  Jesus, the ultimate example of love, cared so much for us that He endured the torture of the cross, when His right as God was to walk away and face none of it.  Can we love, even one fraction of that much?

Love keeps no record of wrong

1 Corinthians 13:5 …[Love] is not… resentful.

Answer this one question: Does it ever do anyone any good to carry resentment?  If someone has wronged you, and no doubt someone has at some point, it accomplishes very little to keep track of all of the things they’ve done to you.  They certainly don’t benefit from the fact that you’re holding a grudge and there’s no good in it for you either.

Love is so quick to forgive.  True love is incapable of keeping a list of wrongs because past hurts and mistakes have been forgiven, stricken from the record.  That doesn’t mean we’ll necessarily forget what happened, that’s almost impossible, but it means that whatever happened in the past won’t be used against the person who did the hurting.

With love between two people, resentment has no grounds to thrive. When it does dwell in someone’s heart, love has no room and it diminishes.  Both just can’t coexist.  Either you love someone or you resent them and want them to pay for their past actions.  Choose love and everyone will win in the end.

Love is not easily angered

1 Corinithians 13:5  [Love] is not irritable.

Love is patient.  So why reiterate the same basic point by saying that love is not easily angered (or irritable)?  Quite simply, because it’s that much of an issue.  It’s that important because we have to really be conscious of this in order to be effective at loving other people.

With Jesus as our example, take a look at how He reacted to the sometimes whiny, often very hard-headed disciples with whom He spent a great deal of His time.  Be honest, most of us, were we in Jesus’ place, would have gotten angry very early on with some of the things He put up with.  But because He loved them, He showed them patience and kindness.  He answered their silly questions and taught them lessons to help them grow more mature.  He had compassion for them.

The only way to really have this kind of compassion for someone is to have some empathy – try to feel what they’re feeling.  Most of the time if you can empathize, anger is not going to flare up quite so easily.  It’s really not about controlling anger, it’s about considering others.

Love is not self-seeking

1 Corinthians 13:5   Love… does not insist on its own way.

Many marriages end simply because the two spouses could never quite become one unit.  If either or both are constantly looking out for self and never putting the good of the entire family first, things will ultimately fall apart.  This can be said of any relationship.

Jesus said that a house divided against itself cannot stand (Mark 3:25). There has to be unity in a home, each member of the family acting as a teammate, in order for any sort of happiness to be there.  Each person seeking to get only for themselves, at the expense of others, will lead only to strife.

Relationships are team efforts, with one set of goals, one set of values, and a high regard for unity and respect.  Two individuals trying to live for their own goals with no regard for each other’s is not a functioning relationship – and it’s not love.

Love is not self-seeking, it does not insist on its own way.  It always – ALWAYS – puts others first.  Sometimes you will have to put aside your own desires for the greater good of your marriage.  Sometimes keeping a friendship means not getting your way.  Sometimes selflessness won’t be reciprocated.  Sometimes it may seem that you’re doing it all for no reason.  But love always hopes, love always endures, and love never fails.  Hold on and keep loving.