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Love is not self-seeking

1 Corinthians 13:5   Love… does not insist on its own way.

Many marriages end simply because the two spouses could never quite become one unit.  If either or both are constantly looking out for self and never putting the good of the entire family first, things will ultimately fall apart.  This can be said of any relationship.

Jesus said that a house divided against itself cannot stand (Mark 3:25). There has to be unity in a home, each member of the family acting as a teammate, in order for any sort of happiness to be there.  Each person seeking to get only for themselves, at the expense of others, will lead only to strife.

Relationships are team efforts, with one set of goals, one set of values, and a high regard for unity and respect.  Two individuals trying to live for their own goals with no regard for each other’s is not a functioning relationship – and it’s not love.

Love is not self-seeking, it does not insist on its own way.  It always – ALWAYS – puts others first.  Sometimes you will have to put aside your own desires for the greater good of your marriage.  Sometimes keeping a friendship means not getting your way.  Sometimes selflessness won’t be reciprocated.  Sometimes it may seem that you’re doing it all for no reason.  But love always hopes, love always endures, and love never fails.  Hold on and keep loving.

Pray like Jesus

A disciple

Matthew 26:39  And going a little farther he fell on his face and prayed, saying, “My Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from me; nevertheless, not as I will, but as you will.”

A genuine disciple of Jesus Christ follows His example and walks as closely to Him as possible.  When praying, the disciple prays as Jesus would.  But how did Jesus pray?  What does our example to follow look like?

We all know the Lord’s Prayer, when Jesus taught the apostles how to pray, but when Jesus was alone His prayers looked different from those famous lines.  When He prayed to the Father, His heartfelt desires were lifted up to heaven.  But notice that He doesn’t stop at asking.  Jesus, having been sent by the Father to do His perfect will, knew that the Father’s purpose was more important that His own desires.  Can we pray like Jesus prayed?

In His greatest hour of pain, during betrayal, fear, and impending death, Jesus was able to put aside His own wishes for those of the Father.  Did Jesus really desire for the pain and suffering of the cross to be taken out of the plan?  Was He really praying that the very mission for which He had come to earth would be aborted?  Or was He showing us how to pray in great times of sorrow?  Was He modeling for us what it’s like to give up our own will in submission to the Father’s?  This is what it looks like.  This is our daily calling as disciples – to give up our own will in exchange for the perfect will of God.